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Unseen value of respecting elders

by damith
September 8, 2024 1:01 am 0 comment 723 views

In an era dominated by rapid technological advancement and ever-shifting social norms, there is an unsettling trend emerging among younger generations: the gradual erosion of respect and gratitude towards senior citizens. It’s as if, in their rush to embrace the new, they’ve overlooked the enduring wisdom and experience that older generations bring.

Many of the young today, emboldened by their vigour and the promise of a long life ahead, seem to harbour the belief that they will never grow old. They view aging as something that happens to others, and in doing so, they distance themselves from a reality that is both inevitable and universally shared. But aging is not a curse or a failure; it is a natural progression of life, a journey that every person, if fortunate, will undertake.

And those who have already walked this path have much to teach, much to share, if only the young would pause to listen. The respect owed to senior citizens is not just a matter of tradition or etiquette; it is recognition of the human experience, of the trials and triumphs that have shaped not only the individual but also the society in which we all live.

The illusion of eternal youth

In youth, there is often a sense of invincibility, a belief that time is endless and that one’s current state of vitality will last forever. This illusion is, perhaps, stronger today than it has ever been, fuelled by a culture that glorifies youth and often marginalizes the elderly.

Social media and popular culture are replete with images of youthful exuberance, beauty, and success, creating an environment where aging is not just ignored but actively shunned. For many young people, the concept of getting old seems distant, almost irrelevant. The elderly are seen as relics of a bygone era, their value diminished by their perceived distance from the contemporary world. This mindset fosters a dangerous disconnect, where the lessons of the past are disregarded, and the contributions of older generations are undervalued. It is a mindset that forgets the simple truth that aging is a process that, sooner or later, will touch us all.

The lessons of the past

Every wrinkle on a senior citizen’s face tells a story, every gray hair is a testament to a life lived with all its joys and sorrows, successes and failures. The elderly are living archives of history, custodians of wisdom that has been honed over decades. Yet, in many parts of the world today, this wisdom is overlooked, dismissed as outdated or irrelevant. In reality, the experiences of older generations are invaluable. They have seen the world change in ways that younger people cannot fully comprehend.

They have lived through wars, economic upheavals, technological revolutions, and social transformations. They have raised families, built communities, and contributed to the development of the very society that the young now inhabit.

Respecting the elderly means acknowledging this rich tapestry of experience. It means understanding that the challenges we face today are not entirely new; they are part of a continuum that stretches back through time. The solutions of the past, the mistakes made and lessons learned, are all there for us to draw upon, if only we are wise enough to do so.

The value of gratitude

Gratitude is a learned skill, one that requires humility and recognition of our interconnectedness. It is easy for the young to take for granted the comforts and conveniences of modern life, without pausing to consider the sacrifices made by those who came before them. The roads they walk on, the institutions they rely on, the freedoms they enjoy—these were all built by previous generations, often at great personal cost. Yet, too often, the elderly are treated as though they are a burden, rather than as the benefactors they truly are.

This lack of gratitude is a reflection of a broader societal shift towards individualism and self-centeredness, where the contributions of others are overlooked in favour of personal achievement. It is a mindset that diminishes not only the elderly but also the younger generation itself, robbing them of the opportunity to learn from those who have already walked the path they are just beginning.

Gratitude is not just about saying “thank you”; it is about recognizing the value of others, particularly those who have made sacrifices for our benefit. It about understanding that we stand on the shoulders of those who came before us, and that we owe them not just respect, but also our sincere thanks.

The consequences of disrespect

Disrespecting the elderly is more than just a moral failing; it has real, tangible consequences for society. When we marginalize senior citizens, we lose access to a wealth of knowledge and experience that could help guide us through the challenges we face today. We also risk creating a society that is increasingly fragmented, where the young and old live in separate worlds, with little understanding or empathy for each other. Moreover, a lack of respect for the elderly can have devastating effects on their well-being. Studies have shown that social isolation and a sense of being undervalued are significant risk factors for depression and other mental health issues among older adults. When the young fail to engage with and respect their elders, they contribute to a culture of neglect that can have serious consequences for the health and happiness of senior citizens.

Conversely, when young people take the time to listen to and learn from the elderly, it fosters a sense of connection and community. It helps bridge the gap between generations, creating a more cohesive society where everyone, regardless of age, feels valued and respected.

A call to action

It is time for the younger generation to re-evaluate their attitudes towards aging and the elderly. Respect for senior citizens should not be seen as an obligation or a burden, but as an opportunity—a chance to learn from those who have lived through the very history that has shaped the present. This respect begins at home, in the way we interact with our parents, grandparents, and elderly relatives.

It extends to the wider community, in how we treat older people in public, in the workplace, and in our social circles. It is reflected in the policies we advocate for, ensuring that the needs of the elderly are met with dignity and compassion. Young people must understand that aging is a privilege, one that they too will hopefully experience.

They should recognize that the elderly are not just “old people” but individuals who have lived full lives, which have stories to tell and lessons to impart. By respecting and valuing our elders, we not only honour them, but we also enrich our own lives, gaining insights and perspectives that can only come from those who have seen and experienced more of life than we have.

The notion that one will never grow old is a fallacy, a fleeting illusion that fades with time. The true measure of a society lies in how it treats its most vulnerable members, and senior citizens are among the most deserving of our respect and gratitude. By embracing the wisdom of the past and showing genuine appreciation for those who have come before us, we build a stronger, more compassionate society—one that values every stage of life and understands that aging is not something to be feared, but something to be respected and revered.

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